6 things to do when someone is jealous of you at work

6 things to do when someone is jealous of you at work6 things to do when someone is jealous of you at workHere are six things to do when someone is jealous of you at work1. Allow him his feelingsIts his journey not yours. It is not your job to change his feelings. It is your job to get along with him in a productive manner.2. Be true to yourself and a servant leader to all, including herbeiTreat her as you would anyone else. Dont vary your behavior because she does. You will, of course, be more cautious but never difficult. Dont lie down in the mud with people who like it there. Dont lose your executive presence.3. Schedule a meeting with him and ask him directly if he has an issue with you or your workTell him that you would like to have a better working relationship with him and want to know what that would look like.4. Ask questions to understand what she fearsBeing less than? Being unnoticed? Not advancing? I noticed that you reacted negatively to my suggestion. Please tell me wh at is at the root of your objection. I want to understand. Then listen for the inference. You cant control her thought process. But, this intel on her fears will help you position what you can control YOUR behavior. Aim at putting her fears to rest so that you can work productively with her. She may never grow to like you. She will likely learn to respect you.5. Counter his fearsSincerely validate his positive qualities to ease his angst. I notice how you. Great work. You really stood out on that. That really makes a difference for the company. Id like to include you on this because I want to meet your goals of (X).6. If you know she is undermining you ask her how her behavior aligns with the company value or (Y)?Make the discussion between you and the values document not between you and her. It isnt personal. Then if she continues to be difficult, ask her next time to have the character (reference the company value) to say what she says behind your back to your face first.Mary L ee Gannon, ACC, CAEis an executive coach and 18-year corporate CEO who helps leaders have more effective careers, happier lives and better relationships. Get her FREECareer and Life Planning Toolto be more effective, the leader everyone wants to work for and have a better connection with the people who matter while it still matters. If you dont know where you will be at the end of 2018, you are already there.